I was thinking today of a friend I’ve known for a few years.  When we met, his marriage was falling apart.  He and his wife came into the church for marriage counseling.  He was ready to walk, but she was begging him to stay.

Now I’m not much of a counselor.  I’m not a professional in that field, so I try to only do crisis intervention counseling.  When I do counsel people, I keep it short-term and quickly try to help them find ongoing professional help.

When my friend and his wife came to see me, my goal was simple:  give it 90 days.  I asked him to stick it out for 90 more days.  For the sake of the kids, for the sake of the years he’d already invested in his marriage, for the sake of obeying Scripture, and for the sake of his own pocket book, I asked him to give it just 90 more days.  Once he agreed, I immediately helped them find the right marriage counselor.

Today, he and his wife are happily married and God is doing great things in their lives.  I’m no longer a part of the church where this couple attends, but I recently got a message from his wife on Facebook thanking me for my help.  She reported that things are the best they’ve ever been all because of 90 days.  I’m honored that I played a small part.

Perhaps you want to bail on something.  Maybe it’s your marriage, your job, your church, your family, or your education.  If you feel like giving up, let me encourage you to give it 90 days.  Don’t make any drastic decisions unless you’re willing to put off the decision for 90 days.  During those 90 days do the following:

• Fast
• Pray
• Seek advice
• Consider the outcome if you give up
• Consider the outcome if you don’t give up

At the end of 90 days, you’ll be much better equipped to make your decision.  In the grand scheme of things, a short 90 day investment could make all the difference.